The Bigger The Emotional Wound, The More Private The Pain

No matter how much it hurts you now, you must know that this emotional wound you feel inside you, that which affects the whole universe, will heal.

The bigger your emotional wound is, the more private you will suffer and the more alone you will feel. Negative emotions are common enemies in the human mind that both affect us and prevent us from moving forward. Many times we see psychological “wounds” as situations that, over the time you live, have left a traumatic imprint on your mind.

Trauma is excessive pain that a person is unable to digest and turn against, which then becomes latent in your inner landscape. Then they influence the behavior and the way you see the world.

We should also point out that the wounds are not overcome in the same way whether you experience them as a child or as an adult. Children lack their own resources to digest pain, aggression and disappointment. But children and adults have one thing in common. The more intense the trauma or the more wounded they are, the greater their sense of isolation. Let’s take a look at this.

The emotional wound you carry inside you

Disappointment, betrayal and emotional pain caused by others… It all breaks your inner peace and perceptions which, until then, made you feel “safe” and gave you well-being. You can also say that the wounds you carry quietly inside you have different roots and images. But psychologists explain that trauma generally has the following characteristics:

Trauma and types of emotional wounds

• When your sense of security is destroyed: This can happen during childhood or as an adult. Suddenly, everything that defines you, people who are important to you and who are your pillars every day, will betray you. You lose everything that once gave you security.

• Lack of loving interaction: It is common for children not to receive enough emotional support to strengthen their relationship. This is also common with partners who do not feel love or support from their partners. This is an emptiness that leaves a deep wound.
• Being exposed to certain assaults Physical attacks or attacks on self-esteem, having the willpower violated as a person who has the right to their own opinion, values ​​and behavior, are common attacks that usually leave serious trauma.

This is how traumatic wounds affect us

• The impact of the attack, lack of emotional support, or destroying the sense of security that everyone needs, will directly affect the chemistry of the brain.
• Traumas create a type of post-traumatic stress that puts the brain on continuous watch. Fear, mistrust and anxiety are woven into this neurochemical chaos that can lead to depression.

• Noradrenaline, adrenaline, or dopamine can lead to insomnia, which can make you always tired and you will suffer from mood swings…

Although each person usually presents with their own specific set of symptoms, and although no case is the same, the changes in these neurotransmitters are quite common in the cerbal levels.

Wounds and feeling alone

The more intense the emotional wound, the more a person is paralyzed, and this leads to a greater sense of isolation.

• The wounded feel as if no one can understand what they are going through and what they are suffering from.

• The feeling of isolation is caused by changes in the neurotransmitters, which reinforce the perception of isolation and negativity.
• Emotional anxiety also includes physical discomfort. Fatigue, lethargy, muscle aches and headaches also tend to disconnect people from all over the world.

You must also remember that it is not so easy to share the emotional wound. You can talk about how bad the day went, about the chat you had with your partner…

But revealing to the other person how your partner humiliated you, or how you have been abandoned since you were a child, is something so complex that it is not easy to talk about it or share it with anyone.

How to face even the most intense of your emotional wounds

It is always interesting to think about things regarding human emotions. Negative emotions can help you understand that something is wrong, and they can help you rebuild something. They should never “paralyze” you.

Likewise, positive emotions are meant to “connect” you with people around you. All this means that:

• You have the right to be sad, discouraged and angry. These feelings do not have to be permanent, but they will help you understand that something is wrong and you should react to it and take up the fight.

• You are not weak if you ask for help, to say that you are not feeling so well, that you are stuck. So do not hesitate to talk to someone who can really listen to you and help you.

You have to understand that from the past it has already been done. It’s already happened, the wound is deep, and you’ll probably never get it healed completely before it’s gone. But you must understand that:

• You do not forget the memory, but it allows you to continue living without it hurting so much.
• Wounds are healed by covering them with new hopes,  with new projects that help you get rid of the past.
• Support yourself with people who truly love you. Fight to take care of yourself and to love yourself every day, just as you deserve.

What someone did to you in the past should not define who you are today.